What I’m Thankful For

A few years ago, God placed a desire in my heart to bring encouragement to other moms by sharing my “mom” stories and poetry.  It was a long pregnancy, but my book was finally birthed last month. “Seasons of a Mom’s Life, is now available and I’ve been very excited to share it with everyone!

In my book, I thanked God, my family, and my publisher.  Today, I would like to publicly thank my friends, who have prayed for me, encouraged me, and cheered me on. Not just through the writing process but through many different seasons of my life.  God has blessed me with an amazing Mom, but I am also blessed to have so many other incredible women in my life.  Some of you I have known for as long as I can remember and some I’ve only known for a short time.  Each of you add something wonderful and unique to my life, and I am forever thankful for your friendship.  I cannot imagine doing life without you, my friends. 

As women, it is so important we have those in our lives that we can trust and confide in.  Those we can call at any time, who will be there with a listening ear and open arms.  Sometimes we just need to talk it out and sometimes we just need to cry it out.  There are times we need to pray together and then times we need to be prayed for because we can’t find the strength to do it ourselves.  At times, we need to seek reassurance from each other that we are okay and we’ll make it through whatever storm is raging.  Then sometimes we just need to be in each other’s presence, without even a word spoken.  There are times when just the company of the other makes everything okay (and sometimes adding in some coffee or chocolate helps too).

My FriendsAs moms, we need those women in our lives, who are more experienced and wiser, to encourage us and give us guidance because they’ve been where we are right now.  Sometimes we need to be that mom, who has been there, and give support and reassurance to the other because we’ve already weathered that storm.  We don’t know all the answers, but we do know the One who does.  If we seek Him, He will be found.

I cannot even begin to put into words how immensely blessed I am to have a magnificent group of women in my life.  Each one of my friends have a special place in my heart.  God knew that we would need each other on this journey.  I am forever thankful He made our paths cross and tie into a beautiful bow of friendship.  

 

His Grace is Sufficient

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Well, today is the last day of kindergarten for my boys.  I cried on the first day, and I have cried on the last day.  Such a mixed bag of emotions come with being a mom!  On one hand, I am so stinking proud of them I can hardly stand it.  Then, I feel so overwhelmed with emotion because my tiny three pound babies are not babies anymore.  I am excited to see what wonderful little gentlemen they are becoming, but then I miss rocking those tiny babies snuggled on my chest.

I wish I could slow this down for you are growing way too fast!

So, I will try with all my might to create sweet memories that will last.

Watching you experience “firsts” and learning so many new things,

Is at times for me bittersweet ~ for I know you are growing your wings.

I am thankful God chose me to nurture two shining stars.

I will treasure every moment, as I watch you be the miracles you are.

©2017 Christy Moss

 God has given us such a magnificent job to do, but there are times I feel ill equipped and overwhelmed on this roller coaster ride.  During those times, it is imperative I stop and sit at Jesus’ feet, if only for a moment.  It is then, I must remind myself to be a Mary and not a Martha. 

 As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him.  She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said.  But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made.  She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!”  “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one.  Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”

Luke 10:38-42 (NIV)

This helps me concentrate on Jesus first, and remember I am never alone or without help on this journey.  In everything we face as mothers, God’s grace is sufficient for us.  It is in Him we find our peace.  It is in Him we find our strength.

But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness.”  Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.

II Corinthians 12:9

This is Not Hallmark

Shortly after bringing my babies home, I remember seeing pictures of other mother’s newborns on social media.  The sweet photos that everybody oohs and aahs over.  Especially those precious moments when you see and hold your baby for the first time after giving birth.  I remember feeling so sad and cheated.  I did not have any photos of those moments.  I did not even get to see my babies for several hours after their births and everyone else had already seen them by the time I did.  I did not get to hold them for days after they were born. 

I did not have any of those cute staged newborn photos.  My babies were covered in wires, IVs, feeding tubes, and tubes to help them breath.  They were laying there helpless in an incubator.  I could not even see their little faces the first time I looked at them.  All of our first pictures included all of these apparatuses. 

This may sound selfish but there were moments after we got home that I was sad and cried because I missed out on those moments so many other mothers get to experience.  I had waited for so long to become a mommy and I felt like I was cheated out of those precious first moments and memories most mothers are blessed to experience. 

I remember talking to God about this one day.  Not out of anger, just feeling hurt and sad. After pouring my heart out to Him and just laying it all out there, I remember clearly hearing in my spirit these words, “This is your story and you are not alone.” 

I then realized God was reminding me that I am not the only person this has happened to and some did not have the outcome I did.  This is my story, even the parts that hurt or were disappointing.  It is my responsibility to encourage other mothers who may also be going through this same experience. 

Sometimes our God-ordained path leads us through the wilderness of “unfair” and down the path of “not what I had planned”.   When faced with these situations, we should first remind ourselves of this: 

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.    Romans 8:28 (NIV)

Go ahead, cry out to God.  Tell Him you are hurt and disappointed.  Lay all of the emotions you feel at His feet.  He can handle it, even when we cannot.  It is okay to feel this way.  We are human and we have human emotions.  None of this is a surprise to God. 

However, it is not okay to sit and wallow in our sadness and disappointments.  At some point we have to pick ourselves up and give it over to Him.  If you are like me, you will probably pick them back up or retrieve them from His hands and roll around in them once again.  But, hopefully you will give them back to the One who can handle them once and for all.  If you let Him, I assure you He will do it.

I know it is easy to plan out the special moments of our lives like childbirth where they resemble a “Hallmark” moment.  Unfortunately, they do not usually turn out in that fashion.  For some, maybe they do, but for most, they do not.  Do not beat yourself up when they don’t.  It doesn’t make the moment any less special and it’s certainly not worth subtracting from the special event by mourning the fact it didn’t occur the way you had planned it in your mind.  (I am preaching to myself here also.)

Life is not a string of pretty, picture perfect, choreographed moments.  It is, however, beautiful, especially those moments with our children, even with the ugly, tear stained, frustrated, fist pounding moments all of us as mothers face.

Dear Lord,

 Thank You for the many blessings You provide to us.  Thank You that Your mercies are new every morning.  Forgive us when we fall short and forget to praise You and instead complain or feel disappointed because they did not occur the way we had envisioned.

 Help us to see each glorious gift You give us for exactly what it is . . . a gift from You.  Even when it doesn’t happen the way we might have planned or in the time frame we would like.  Help us to realize and accept that You are in control and You know what is best for our lives even though we may not understand in that moment. 

 Grant us the ability to accept the timing as You see fit and not how we think it should be.  Give us eyes to see Your hand at work, no matter the circumstance.

 In Jesus’ name ~ Amen

Seasons of Motherhood

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Do you ever find yourself feeling as if you are just getting by in this thing called motherhood?  Do you feel like you are just surviving and maybe struggling to see the light at the end of the tunnel?  I want to help you see these times with different eyes.  I want to encourage you and cheer you on.  Most importantly, Mama, I want to remind you of what a mighty and fierce warrior you are in Christ.

Just like the seasons of the year, we all face different seasons in our lives, especially as mothers.  Sometimes those seasons are joyous and sometimes they are full of trials.  No matter what season you are in, always remember that God is right there with you, even in the midst of it.  If you ask Him and allow Him, He will guide you through, no matter what the circumstances may be.  He has promised us many things in His Word and as a child of God.  We have the authority to claim those promises in our lives and on the lives of those we are responsible for. 

God will not leave us no matter what we are going through.  He is not a fair-weather friend, only there in good times or when there is a benefit for Himself.  He is with us every step of the way.  No matter if those steps are easy, level, and clear, or if they are rocky, overgrown with weeds, and difficult to navigate.

He is everything we need, but we must give Him everything that we are.  It is not easy to do and it is something  we must constantly work on.  Our flesh wants to take control, worry over it, and try and fix it, but God did not create us to do that.  He created us to fully rely on Him and trust Him for all our needs.

My main prayer is that you trust Jesus Christ as your Savior, if you have not already, and develop an intimate relationship with Him.  If you have already made that decision, my hope is your relationship with Him will continue to grow stronger and closer every day.  Next, I pray you find encouragement as a mom through the stories I share.  God bless you!